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Book Review: I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t)

I thought it was just me

We get requests to review books daily from our audience, and today is no exception. “I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t)” is the amazing result of seven years of research by best selling writer Dr Brene Brown…

University of Houston researcher and social worker Brown believes shame underlies the spread of depression, anxiety, eating disorders and much more, and drawing on a study of hundreds of women, she constructs a method for overcoming it.

Brown defines shame as “the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging” and believes its spread has been created by conflicting and competing expectations about who women should be.I Thought It Was Just Me

Women feel shame about their appearance, about motherhood, family, money/work, health, stereotypes and trauma.

Brown quotes liberally from the women she has studied and, most enlighteningly, gives examples from her own experiences juggling motherhood, career and her social life.

These revelations underscore her belief in the importance of exposing shame and, through empathy, helping oneself and others move past it. She underscores the need to practice critical awareness, i.e., understanding the social forces that create shame in us can help us fight the sense of shame.

Thus, Brown presents a spirited attack on the media and the beauty industry for presenting unrealistic images of women. Directing readers to focus on personal growth as opposed to unattainable perfection, Brown urges them to practice shame-resilience skills and teach them to their children.

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Dr Brown’s book can be purchased at a great price here. Along with her previous best-seller “The Gift Of Imperfection” here.


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    I would recommend this to anyone who feels even so slightly lost in middle age, not just women, but men also.


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      HI Ruth
      Thank you so much. I love Brene Brown’s books and blogs. She makes so much sense and is so inspiring.
      Watch the front page of our blog. On the right hand side every week we recommend a book, and they are all amazing


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