We all see the world around us in different ways, we all have different views. These views are based on our perception. When we perceive that we are being more supported than challenged, then we relax; when we perceive that we are being more challenged than supported, we awaken…
When we are stressed our blood supply goes to our most primitive part of our brain and when we are relaxed our blood supply goes to the more evolved part of our brain. This is fact. The message here is that the more we activate our primitive part of our brain and physiology the more we degenerate. Likewise when we grow and develop we evolve.
Who does not want to evolve? In order to achieve this we need to know how to balance our perceptions. How do we do this? Through gratitude. Gratitude is one of the biggest healers on planet earth.
Dr. John Demartini, human behaviour specialist and author of ‘Inspired Destiny’ explains that gratitude shortens the wavelength of emotions. When one is mindful then one has the ability to stop automatic reactions as they happen and immediately ask: ‘What is the blessing in this?’ If you dig really deep enough, you will eventually find many, many blessings that are often hidden by our misperceptions.
For example, imagine a particular child is really pushing your buttons. Looking with clear perspective at the situation you may see that through this experience you are practicing patience, perhaps you have been challenged to create new strategies and so you have grown and developed as a teacher or parent, or maybe the result of your frustration is a change in routine or environment which is benefiting everyone. When one realises the benefits of each situation, gratitude follows, and from here, parenting with grace is possible.
Our words can shift the way we see and think about people and situations. If you are caught in negative thinking patterns about your child or yourself, try looking for the flip side by using this equilibration exercise.
1. Write down three things about your child that you often react to.
2. Write down how you perceive this action or trait.
3. Now, write down an alternate way of looking at each.
For example, a child who is slow could also be seen as one who experiences each moment fully or when a child is loud we can perceive him/her as being assertive.
4. Repeat the above exercise on yourself.
Article originally written by Helen Hansen