Love is our Universal Language.
When we hear the word “love”, we not only understand it, but we feel it.
We have a family tattoo: (www.liferetreat.co.za/tattoos-18-interesting-facts), with our family’s initials and each of our children have chosen a word to represent them. Kerri-Lee (Live), Tyron (Embrace), Samantha (Love), Gregory (Cherish). Every single day, I count my blessings which are our 4 amazing children.
From the 1st moment our children are born, we have an overwhelming love for them. No matter what, they are perfect to us parents, in every single way. It is amazing how, no matter how many children we have, we love each one of them just as much, and equally.
“Try to see your child as a seed that came in a packet without a label. Your job is to provide the right environment and nutrients and to pull the weeds. You can’t decide what kind of flower you’ll get or in which season it will bloom.” – Anonymous
6 Steps for Unconditional Love
In reality we all love our children unconditionally, but we need reminders to keep us on track.
These are 5 valuable steps that i have learnt. I try commit to these steps, and use them daily.
1. Aim at being the most perfect parent that you can be, rather than being perfect.
So much emphasis is placed these days on being the perfect parent, which sets us all up for failure, as no one is perfect. We should rather aim, at being our perfect selves, as we are all unique. We should live with unconditional love, rather than perfection.
There are many times in life where harshness and anger creeps into our hearts and souls. At these times we must be aware of staying gentle and soft, towards ourselves and our children. When we feel our of sorts, we need to stop and look for something good in ourselves or our child, and really appreciate them
3. Commit to radical self-care
We cannot care for others, if we don’t care for ourselves. From the moment we wake up, if we take care of our own health and happiness, it will be far easier to look after our children’s. Most of us are living extremely stressful lives, and we need to stay mindful daily, to ensure that the stress does not overwhelm us.
4. Happy parents make happy children
We all need to stop taking ourselves so seriously. We need to lighten up and enjoy our lives. Play, laugh and have fun, and it will bring the best out of us and our children.
5. Appreciate our children’s strengths and weaknesses.
We are always quick to appreciate and elevate our children’s strengths and accomplishments. But, it is far more difficult to always accept their weaknesses. If we can find the underlying causes of bad behaviour ,and focus on healing those, it will be extremely beneficial to our children.
Always be grateful for the wonderful opportunity that you have been given to be a parent. We must never take our children for granted. We must enjoy every moment of the blessed times that we share with them.
One of the most wonderful books that I have every read, and have continued to read throughout my life is – The Profit by Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
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